Develop your own psychological resilience
Growing old seems to be something that everyone avoids. We are very concerned about the loss of appearance, youth, and physical function. However, the aging on the outside is obvious, but the aging on the inside is rarely taken seriously. Wang Dahua, a professor at the Department of Psychology at Beijing Normal University, said that psychological aging has a greater negative impact on people than physical and facial aging.
If a person is not old, But if you lose hope, lack warmth, and lose vitality, you are also aging from a psychological point of view. Psychological aging is mainly manifested in two aspects: low interest in learning, rejection of accepting new things or loss of curiosity and desire to explore; low desire for self-improvement, no longer considering growth, and just maintaining the status quo. No matter what age you are, as long as you have the above symptoms, your vitality will decrease, your mentality will become conservative, you will rely on your old age, and always talk about the past. This state may seem "comfortable", but in fact it is muddled along. It is easy to lose enthusiasm and hope for life, life, and the world, and slowly become empty and meaningless.
Therefore, many scholars advocate a force to combat psychological aging-psychological anti-aging. Wang Dahua said that each of us has the potential to overcome difficulties, defeat our past selves, stand up again, and continue to move forward. This kind of psychological toughness is effective psychological resistance to aging. It can bring three benefits: 1. Optimism, having hope for the future, thinking that tomorrow is a new day, and there may be good things or turning points; 2. Confidence, being able to accept one's own imperfections, including being casual. Signs of aging that appear with age, and at the same time believe that one's inner value will not be reduced due to external changes; 3. Actively cope with difficulties or physical changes, adopt a positive coping method, including making good use of the support and social resources of people around you To solve problems, you can also look at difficulties from a positive perspective and discover growth opportunities from setbacks. It can be seen that people with psychological resilience can affirm their own value, pay attention to the enrichment and development of life, and have clear meaning and goals in life.
So how to cultivate it? Wang Dahua believes that three clichéd "little things" can help improve psychological resistance to aging. The key is to implement and persist.
Find the target. No matter what age or state a person is in, it is impossible to live a "safe" life 100% of the time. A closer look reveals that there are still many areas in life that require effort. For example, your career can be promoted to another level, your knowledge in certain new fields at work needs to be enriched, various tools and techniques are waiting for you to learn and explore, and you can make new friends, etc. These are all "hills" that you need to "overcome". ". Or some smaller things, such as reading one or two books a month, exercising three days a week, staying up less late, etc. As long as you think that life is "more than that", you can find things to do and work hard for. sort outOnly when you set a correct goal and do it step by step will your heart be fulfilled and you will feel that life is valuable. When your brain is active, your mind will be younger.
Develop hobbies. In addition to the things you "must do", you must also have many things you "like to do". Otherwise, if you have a little leisure time, you will have nothing to do, and human laziness will take over your life. It is recommended that those whose life pace has slowed down try to get in touch with more people and things, find out what they are really interested in, and treat it as a lasting interest, even become very professional and enjoy a sense of accomplishment from it. , realize your own value. Finding interests often doesn’t happen overnight, and it may take you many years to find them, but the process of finding them is full of fun and you can gain a lot. It is recommended to be patient and you will eventually find your true love.
Learn to laugh at yourself. Many young-minded people have a common characteristic, which is "self-deprecation", also called self-joking, which is a kind of good-natured humor. For example, Mr. Qi Gong, a famous contemporary Chinese calligrapher, painter and master of Chinese studies, often uses humor to deal with the environment, resolve conflicts and balance his mentality. Mr. Qi Gong was once a doctoral supervisor at Beijing Normal University. Teachers and students respectfully called him "Ph.D. Supervisor." To avoid embarrassment, Mr. Qi Gong smiled and said: "I am old and old, and I will fall down every time I refute it. It's 'pull it down', if you don't dial it, you'll knock it down!" Similar self-deprecation is a reflection of an open-minded attitude towards life, fully accepting yourself with some shortcomings, stupid things, and bad thoughts, and turning your own experiences into Happiness can add a lot of laughter to a boring life.
Finally, Wang Dahua said that it is a natural law that immortality is not possible, and physical aging cannot be reversed. But as long as we have a young heart, we have a source of happiness.