The "Law of True Fragrance" mostly comes from repression

Mai Shunpian, a national second-level psychological counselor

“I won’t take a bite even if I die”, and ended up eating very deliciously; “I will definitely not use XX products”, so I bought a lot ; "I won't like that kind of person", but every boyfriend turns out to be similar... He was very negative, resistant, and even disgusted at first, "I swear I won't like him", but after getting in touch with him, he found that he really likes him. This phenomenon was called by netizens It is the "Law of True Fragrance". This phenomenon can be seen everywhere, so much so that netizens came to the conclusion that "no one can escape the law of truth." From a psychological point of view, everyone has the psychology of "really fragrant".

"Strongly deny it" from the beginning , may be a negative reflection of the inner "tendency". This is a psychological defense mechanism: reverse formation, which refers to transforming subconsciously unacceptable desires and impulses into opposite behaviors in consciousness. Due to the "pressure" of reality and rationality, we often deny what we really like.

For example, the elders in the family are very opposed to their children having pets, and even threaten to throw them out as soon as they bring them back. As a result, they become very close to the pets and even love the pets more than the children. Another example is that an excellent student expressed disdain for other students using learning machines, thinking that these fancy electronic products would only affect learning and would not be of any help. Later, by chance, a classmate lent him a learning machine to memorize the text for him. He found it to be very effective and immediately bought one himself.

Elders think that keeping pets is a troublesome thing, and students think that using electronic products is a sign of not being serious. These "correct" concepts become principles, making people unaware of their inner desires. This is a common psychological conflict. You are subconsciously attracted to something, but rationally you feel that you shouldn't. To balance this conflict, we must double down on denying and rejecting this thing and take a resolute stance. Excessive emotional reactions often imply contradictory and opposite wishes in human nature. And once the hole is opened and it is discovered that there will be no adverse consequences in satisfying the desire, the sincerity of "love" will finally be exposed.

Human nature contains both primitive impulses and moral and rule concepts brought about by social education. It is normal for the two to conflict. In the past, we often chose to continue to suppress and not expose what was in our hearts, but the emergence and popularity of the "Law of Truth" has brought about a certain effect in easing cognitive conflicts. Because everyone discovered that "no one can escape the law of true fragrance", it shows that changing one's mind is a very common thing, everyone will do it. In this case, "slap in the face" is no longer so embarrassing. When everyone can accept their own inconsistencies more calmly, perhaps they can become more flexible in dealing with things and have more space to accept and express their true selves.