What sexologists want to tell you most

The pursuit of sexual happiness is everyone’s right, but not everyone is truly Learn about sex. Recently, many foreign sexology experts have summarized 9 "sexual things" they really want people to know. This knowledge can help people get rid of misunderstandings and enjoy sex better.

1. Sex is not perfect. Sex educator Dr. Logan said that people usually think that a good sexual partner should have the magic power to make sex life perfect. This idea is completely wrong. Sex is not perfect, it can only be successful or not. As long as it can bring men and women closer and bring pleasure to both parties, it is successful sex. "Perhaps a person cannot remember the most intense orgasm, but he will definitely remember the time when he was fully immersed in it and enjoyed it selflessly."

2. Passion can brew on its own. People often see scenes like this in movies and TV shows: partners have sex anytime and anywhere because their passion is uncontrollable. But real sex rarely works like this, and some people are always troubled by a lack of passion. Sex therapist Dr. Brandi Engler says desire doesn't come naturally and passion can be brewed on its own. For example, first do something that makes you feel excited and happy, or bring a little anger to possess the other person, which will make sex passionate.

3. No sexual experience is required to have great sex. No matter how little sexual experience you have, you can still enjoy the beauty of sex. Dr. Logan said that past sexual experiences are not important, what is important is how to treat your current sexual life. Don't always think about whether you are ready or have enough sexual skills. Follow your emotions and intuition, and sex will become more exciting.

4. Dyspareunia is common, but it can be avoided. If you feel pain or discomfort during sex and don't want to say it, it is very detrimental to sexual harmony. Dr. Debbie, a sexologist at Indiana University, said that sex cannot always be static. You can use lubricants or gently adopt some exciting sexual methods in the initial stage of sexual intercourse, which can help reduce pain. If you continue to feel pain or discomfort, you should consult a gynecologist or dermatologist. Painful conditions, allergies, skin conditions, and low estrogen levels can all cause painful intercourse.

5. Think about sex life when you are single. Dr. Rogan said that people usually think that only married people need to think about their sex life. In fact, when you are single, you should think about what kind of sex life you want in the future. You should also understand your desires and what can arouse you in advance.

6. Women can also masturbate. Dr. Debbie said some girls are taught the wrong idea from an early age: Masturbation is unacceptable. In fact, masturbation allows women to better understand their bodies and know how to achieve orgasm more easily.

7. Women’s vaginas are beautiful. Dr. Debbie said that they had conducted a study in which some men wereAsked to answer what is the most attractive part of a female partner’s genitals. The answers are different, but they all feel that their lover's genitals have a different kind of beauty.

8. Be sure to keep an open mind. Dr. Brandi said many men complain that their wives are not open enough when consulting a sex therapist. And women often hear their husbands or male partners muttering why they are not allowed to touch certain places. In fact, you should have an open attitude towards sex and a passion for active exploration.

9. Don’t be shy about trying new things. Dr. Brandi Engler says if you want to try something new in bed, go for it. For example, you can change to a new position, take the initiative during sex, or tell the other person your sexual fantasies. New attempts will keep sex fresh.