Story Collection 1. The true feeling of making love for the first time

All men They all hope that the girl they have sex with is their first time. They feel that only first time sex can bring the ultimate experience. However, when men have sex with a woman, they will find that the woman’s expression is very painful, and they don’t know what she is. Enjoy it but still feel uncomfortable, so let’s take a look at what it feels like for a woman’s first time.

With my wife One time during sex, she looked very painful and kept shouting that it hurt. It made me very nervous and I didn't feel comfortable at the time. Later, I didn't dare to touch her several times. What does a woman feel like for the first time? Is it painful?

Answers from emotional experts: Although most women will bleed and experience varying degrees of pain during sex for the first time, because both parties have a better relationship during sex, women will regard this experience as an obligation and thus develop a sense of belonging; and if both parties If the relationship is not good, it will aggravate the feeling of disgust.

"First The first time sex was very painful, very painful. I really only accepted it for the sake of love, because love requires endurance and sacrifice. He couldn’t bear it anymore and said, just look at your painful look. It’s the first time. After finishing it, I feel that people in the world have changed. When I see a person on the street, I will think that he will do that at night. It seems that I have seen another side of people."

"Our sex life has been unsuccessful since we got married. It took several days before we succeeded. There was no pleasure, but only psychological satisfaction. ”

"We The sexual relationship began after registration, but the wedding had not yet taken place. The first time I felt nothing but pain. There is a feeling that I am an adult from now on. ”

"We The first time I didn't feel anything, I felt a little nervous, but it didn't hurt very much, so I came over in a daze. ”

"I I had sexual intercourse for the first time when I was 21 years old, and I didn’t feel any pain at all. He was under great psychological pressure on his wedding day. I ejaculated without putting it in that night. He said at that time: I can't, we have to divorce. It was actually done about a month after the wedding. I was in a bit of pain and bleeding a bit. His penis is small and not physically strong, so he is under great psychological pressure. ”

"No. It hurt very much once, and sometimes it hurts again later. ”

Most of the women who feel disgusted and painful when recalling their first sexual intercourse experience are either divorced or have a bad relationship with their husbands. From this point of view, sex life is closely related to the relationship between husband and wife, but it is difficult to determine which one is better. The cause and effect are most likely reciprocal - they are disgusted with sexual intercourse because of a bad relationship; and a bad impression of sexual intercourse aggravates the deterioration of the relationship between the couple.

Some women feel bad about their first experience , not because of disgust with the matter itself, but because the first sexual relationship was not with the husband but with the lover, and the psychological pressure was too great: "My first time was not with my husband. I was no longer young at that time. Remember When we kissed, I was very scared and hated him. I felt that he had harmed me.

I think it is an instinctive fear, which is invisibly related to the Chinese education I received since I was a child. I was repelled by this matter at first. , he begged me, but I kept refusing, and finally he did it because he couldn't refuse. In fact, his traditional moral values ​​are also very strong. We are just ordinary boyfriend and girlfriend, and he has a wife. I still take the first time very seriously. ."

Although Women have very different feelings about their first sexual intercourse experience, but most of them take it seriously because it is, after all, the "first time" in their life experiences. There are many "firsts" in a person's life. I remember a mother said how she observed her children's "firsts" with joy: the first time they spoke, the first time they walked, the first time they learned to read, etc. .

However, in In the minds of many women, first intercourse has a different meaning than other "firsts" - losing one's virginity, becoming an "adult", becoming a different kind of person than before; this feeling should be seen as primarily a source of Psychological, not physical. In other words, the difference between this "first time" and other "first times" mainly comes from social norms and the special meaning society gives to sexual behavior.

It is said that men have sexual fantasies every six minutes (actually they don’t!), their girlfriends are cooking naked in the kitchen, in the office A colleague suddenly takes off his clothes, or a sexy woman on the subway sits on his thigh and kisses her passionately...

Extremely exciting, like micro-A movies in the brain that can be watched at any time, and sexual fantasies are also powerful aphrodisiacs for the soul, allowing us to temporarily put aside the constraints of life. , explore your inner passion in a safe imaginary world.

You can generously call the lover of your dreams, or you can taste the taboo temptation without worrying about the consequences.

Some rough behaviors between couples in their sexual life are not only not abnormal, but also It’s normal. According to a survey abroad, 5%-10% of couples in the United States engage in behaviors such as scratching, hitting, pinching, and scratching during sex, and they get a lot of pleasure from it.

If these behaviors are somewhat similar to sexual abuse, they are only It can be said to be "close". Both parties are sensible and have a sense of proportion. They do not pursue unbearable situations like sexual perverts, so they will not cause real harm to the other party like sexual perverts.

In daily life, couples with deep feelings will not treat each other harshly, and they will even say a harsh word for fear of hurting each other. But when it comes to having sex, things often become different.

In order to pursue strong pleasure, sexual intercourse must have a certain intensity. For example, many men like the husband of the young woman above who like to change various positions. This is not necessarily because of this action. It can bring greater pleasure, but because it can intensify the escalation of pleasure through powerful and violent movements.