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1 Nowadays, there is a saying that is particularly popular: live in the present. You will find that the younger people are, the more likely they are to say this. Every time I tell my younger brothers and sisters to think about the future, they will refute me with this sentence: "Sister...

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Now, There is a sentence that is particularly popular: live in the moment.

You will find that the younger the people are, the more they like to say this sentence. Every time, I just tell my younger brothers and sisters to think about the future. , they would use this sentence to refute me: "Sister, are you tired from living? ”

To be honest, I am not tired at all. When I think of leaving my destiny to the unknown future, I would rather spend more time thinking now.

In the past, I I don’t like planning either. I live life very casually. I always feel that I am still young. Why should I think about the future? Everyone says that you don’t know which fool you will bump into at the corner, and you don’t know whether death will come before tomorrow. So, I believed it and started living a moonlight life, eating, drinking and having fun. I never had enough money to spend, but I didn’t think it was a big deal.

The person who made me completely change this concept was a male classmate. He Like me, my family is not rich, but we have had enough food and drink since childhood. We have a job, make money at work, and have fun after work. After working for two or three years, we have no savings. However, friends around him have experienced this, so he didn't think much about it. Until one day, an accident happened at his home.

It was a very ordinary day at work. He suddenly received a call from the hospital. His mother had a car accident and was sent to the emergency room. At that time, his father was on a business trip, and he rushed to the hospital in panic. Fortunately, his mother was fine. However, a troublesome thing arose. The doctor asked him to pay a hospitalization deposit. He took out all his bank cards and found that even He couldn't even scrape together 10,000 yuan. At that moment, he collapsed.

He was from out of town, and except for his parents, all his relatives were in his hometown. His father was not at home, his mother was not awake, and he couldn't even I didn’t know where my bankbooks and bank cards were at home, so I called me anxiously and asked if I had any acquaintances who could help.

I hurriedly took 10,000 yuan from my mother and gave it to him I sent it over. After paying the deposit, he squatted in the corridor and cried bitterly. I will never forget it in my life. At that moment, I was suddenly very scared. It was not that an accident would come at any time, but that I had no ability to resist accidents. . If I were in his situation that day, I wouldn’t have that much money in my bank card...

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Since then, both of us have changed, He would no longer just think about eating, drinking and having fun every day, but began to learn to plan his life and think more about the future.

He later told me that in retrospect, life was really important to him. Yes, it took a small twist to wake him up, rather than waiting until it was too late.

For the future, people who think little about the future generally have two mentality: the first is depression, feeling that they are unable to change Reality, so just let it go and live one day at a time; the other is narcissism, thinking that you can cope with everything in life.There is no obstacle that cannot be overcome. Both mentalities are a scourge. Blind pessimism and blind optimism are both indulgences in life.

Life is fair, if you let it go, it will let you go when you are in trouble. In the year they graduated from college, many students suffered a loss.

At that time, students who were good at English all wanted to go to foreign companies. Students who were not good at English simply chose to join private companies because they felt their proficiency was not good enough. They barely passed CET-4 and could graduate. As a result, many companies suddenly said when recruiting that we need talents who are good at English, and they also added an oral assessment during interviews. At this time, many students were dumbfounded.

Does this picture look familiar? Think about it, how many times have you said to yourself, I don’t need it now anyway, I can learn it when I need it. However, later I discovered that when opportunity favored you, you were not qualified at all.

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There is a saying that goes like this: "When you are 15 years old, you find swimming difficult and give up swimming. When you are 18 years old and meet someone you like and ask you to go swimming, You have to say 'I don't know how'. When you were 18, you found English difficult and gave up on English. When you were 28, a great job came up but required you to know English, so you had to say 'I don't know how'. The more troublesome you find it in the early stages of life, the less lazy you are. If you learn, you will be more likely to miss the people and things that interest you, and miss the new scenery."

Sometimes, you always think that others are particularly lucky, but later you find out that they are just working harder than you. Those efforts that are worthless in your eyes are the gap between your vision and others.

Life is a boat sailing against the current. Even if you don’t compare with others, you can’t give up comparing with yourself.

I found that many times, the reason why people live casually is because they don’t know what they want. Therefore, I have no plans for career, family, or even life, and I don’t know how to actively make choices for myself.

Many friends around me once told me that human nature is unpredictable. You think something is interesting today, so you make up your mind to work hard, but tomorrow you may find it more and more annoying. Since you can't find something you like, you might as well enjoy the present moment.

However, those who do not take the initiative to make choices for themselves will be eliminated first in this rapidly developing world.

A reader once asked me why, in my thirties, I am still surrounded by a group of friends who can only eat, drink and have fun, while my college classmates have already entered a high-level life circle.

My only answer is that you have never thought about what your future will look like.

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In the past, many people in their forties had a mid-life crisis, but now people in their thirties feel the same way. Because it is the accumulation in the first few years that opens up the ranks between people. Some people are becoming more and more valuable, while some people's paths are getting narrower and narrower. Whether or not they have made plans for the future is a very important reason.

You must have ideas and confidence to negotiate with life.

Although peopleYou can't predict everything, but there are some things you can clearly do better, and there are some things you can clearly say more appropriately, but you just miss the opportunity to make your life better because you don't care.

If you think about it, the difficulties life throws at you are just the result of your own laziness.

Everyone’s progress and development requires stepping out of the “comfort zone” and making active choices. In management, there is a "catfish effect". If you put catfish in the living environment of small fish, it will activate the survival ability of small fish. Psychologists have told us countless times that appropriate pressure is very helpful for human growth.

The state of life I admire most is to try your best and prepare for the worst. Whether materially or spiritually, you must learn to lay a solid foundation, so that you will not find yourself helpless when a storm hits one day.

So, we should all reflect on the true meaning of "living in the present". I prefer to interpret it as living life with all your strength in every moment, without worrying about the future or dwelling on the past. But don’t forget, you have to walk on the path you want to take and always maintain the ability to move forward.

Source: "Only hard work will not waste time" | Author: Jenny Qiao, freelance writer. Public account: Jenny Qiao (ID: Jenny-Qiao-Love)