American Gender Website: “Three Do’s and Three Don’ts” for Sex Synchronization
The highest state of sex is that both people gain physical and emotional satisfaction Satisfied, each other loves each other more deeply. But in real life, couples often feel embarrassed because one party "wantes" and the other party "rejects", or even conflicts and hurt feelings. Recently, the famous American gender website "Lovematters" published an article specifically proposing "three dos and three don'ts" on how to keep a couple's sex life in sync.
Be brave enough to talk about your needs. Sex is not limited to the physical and physiological level, it can also make us feel loved, needed and attractive. It can be frustrating if your partner can't give you the sex you want, or wants too much. But be sure to keep a cool head at this time and don't complain or apply pressure, which will only make things worse. Many studies have found that differences in sexual needs between couples, if not handled well, can lead to the emergence of negative emotions such as resentment, loneliness, and even despair. Therefore, if there is disharmony and disharmony in sex life, it is particularly important for couples to talk openly about sex. You can tell your partner what sex means to you and what you want.
Overcome depression and negative emotions. It must be very frustrating when one party tries to arouse the other party's "sexual interest" in a variety of ways, such as wearing sexy underwear and flirting, but to no avail. Don't continue trying with negative emotions at this time, it will only make things worse. You can try the "noble" method of psychologists, which simply means venting negative emotions, such as going out for exercise. In this way, you will not feel frustrated or even resentful towards your partner, and you can wait until your emotions calm down before communicating with your lover.
Look at lifestyle, health and other factors. There are too many factors in life that may affect sex, such as the way one party does or speaks, obesity, finances, health and other factors. In addition, behavior can also affect sexual impulse. For example, if your partner only gets close to you when he wants to have sex, this may also dampen your sexual impulse. Therefore, when some problems in life affect sex, they should be solved in time. In addition, don't forget to consult a marriage counselor and doctor.
Don’t regard rejection as “no love”. Whether you're the more sexually demanding partner or the less demanding partner, remember that it's common for couples to have differences in sexual desire. Although being rejected by your partner can make you feel hurt, remember that it has nothing to do with your body and appearance, and it does not mean that the other person doesn't love you or that you are unattractive.
Don’t threaten each other with marriage. If the sex drive between a couple is too different, a vicious cycle can easily occur and make things worse. Instead of playing out the scenario of "one partner wants sex and the other says no" over and over again, it's better to cool down for a while. Be careful not to threaten the other person. Be patient and loving, and don’t try to find every opportunity to have sex with the other person. This may be difficult, but it can help your partner see that he or she is appreciated for more than just sex.
Don’t suppress your sexual needs. The party with high sexual desire should not suppress their needs and can solve the most urgent sexual needs through masturbation. Instead of hating it, admit that you have sexual needs and they need to be met. This may not change the fact that your sexual desire is stronger than the other person's, but it can relieve stress. On the other hand, just because the other person doesn't want sex doesn't mean that there is no more physical intimacy. You can hug, kiss, and tell the other person that he or she is attractive.